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The Dating Scene
Vignette 5: Courtney, an Artisan Performer (ESFP)
By Dr. Lovegood

Courtney is an Artisan Performer, ESFP. She's 26 years old and enjoys doing temp work. That way she gets to meet all kinds of people and work in many different places. She is popular as a temp worker and has been offered several positions but has turned them down because she knows she'd get bored working at the same company all the time. She's taking college classes so she can become a classroom aide working with children with moderate to severe disabilities.

Courtney's love life has been very tempestuous. She seems to deliberately pick losers. She says that she needs to feel needed. Her boyfriends have all had serious flaws from being drug users to being ex-convicts. Inevitably, her violent love turns to violent rage. Courtney and her boyfriend will scream at each other, sometimes causing the police to have to be called. She's ended up in the hospital more than once after attacking a boyfriend who gave back better than he got. In one relationship, he cheated on her so she cheated on him and made sure he knew about it.

Her current boyfriend is more of the same. He's on parole for selling drugs. She was drawn to him because of his flamboyant and generous life style. She fell in love with him in part when he told her that his mom left when he was a baby and he was raised by his grandparents who have cut off all contact with him. She can't understand how his grandparents can reject him like this. Courtney thought this relationship would be better since he supported himself and admitted his guilt although he still insisted that he'd only sold drugs a couple of times.

However, soon after they started living together, he lost his job as a car salesman (she later realized he'd lied about that job) and hung around the apartment all day. At first, he did some great stuff she'd needed done, but now he's doing very little. When she asks him about looking for a job, he's got all kinds of stories. Courtney goes back and forth between screaming at him and calling him a loser and crying about how much she loves him and never wants to lose him. He regularly plays his "poor little boy with no family" card.

Courtney's gotten to the point of thinking about having children. She has realized that the boyfriends she has had would make rotten fathers, so she is motivated to find a better man. She knows she needs to find a man who doesn't need her to fix him up. Instead she wants to find a man who is fine all by himself but wants to share his life with her.

After getting to this point, Courtney knows that her boyfriend is not likely to change. His problems are his problems. She's tried to help him but can't, so it's time to move on. She can't resist one last gesture, though. She's decided to put all of his stuff on the patio and have the manager change the locks. She wishes she could see the look on his face when he finds out.

What do you think of Courtney's plan? Do you know or are you an Artisan Performer and can you give information about how other Performers have dealt with the dating game?

 

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Temperamental Love
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Birds of a Feather
Complementary Pairs (1)
Complementary Pairs (2)

Mating
Women and Romance
Men and Romance
Marrying the Mirror
R-E-S-P-E-C-T
That Lovin' Feeling
Care and Feeding
How You Annoy Your Partner
Fair Fighting (1)
Fair Fighting (2)
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Temperamental Parenting
My Funny Valentine

Separating
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Affairs
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