What if College Isn't Working for You?
By The College Advisor
The only personality types that find that college isn't working for them are the Artisans.
Right? Absolutely wrong. People are often surprised to find that "intellectual" Rationals
drop out along with every other personality type.
What can push people to drop out of college? Finances; pressure from relationships
including family, friends, and significant others; having no vision or idea of how college
can benefit; and not enjoying the college life experience. Here are some stories about people
who dropped out:
Jim, a Rational Mastermind, had a lot of conflict with his roommate. He wasn't sure of
his major and didn't seem to have much direction. He dropped out for a year and worked at
low paying jobs. He joined a church and started to make friends. He learned that he was
competent at his jobs, but that the jobs didn't interest him. He really looked inward,
developed his faith and a new vision of himself. He then went back to college in a
different major. Now he is married with a family and loves his job as a data guru.
Julia, a Guardian Supervisor, was an officer in a high school club. She had lots of
friends. When she became a commuter college student, her father went out of state to see
a woman he'd met online. He decided not to come back home, and her mother filed for
divorce. All that was normal seemed to dissolve. She quit school to take a job to help
her mother support her two younger siblings. Julia's sense of responsibility won't let her
go back to school until she and her mother get her siblings through high school.
Mike's parents had divorced and both were remarried. He was a member of two blended
families. A Rational Architect, he had a hard time dealing with the emotional fall-out.
One step-brother had problems with drugs and had gotten his girlfriend pregnant. Mike
started community college, but hated living around the emotional turmoil in his family.
He quit to join the Coast Guard and is very happy in his choice. He's appreciated for his
technical know-how and his calm demeanor.
Maylene, an Idealist Healer, lived with her mother and step-father and two younger
sisters. Her oldest sister had left home at 18 and worked as a merchandiser. A rich
aunt died leaving the girls a significant sum of money. When Maylene turned 18, she used
the money to get an apartment, buy a new car and enroll in a private college. All the
money was gone by the end of the first year. She had a hard time adjusting to attending
community college so she dropped out. It wasn't until she was happily married with a family
that she finally went back to college and graduated.
Dean, an Artisan Crafter, started school because his well-educated parents insisted that
if he was going to live at home, he either had to work and pay rent or else go to college.
Dean was always in the garage rebuilding motorcycles for himself and his friends. He
started working part-time in an auto parts store. He developed a number of contacts
and finally quit school to work in a shop that customized motorcycles. He's developing quite
a reputation for his craftsmanship and innovations. He's also living in his own place and
his parents respect his choices.
Many other stories could be told - the Rational Fieldmarshal male who went out of state
to school, but dropped out after one term to go to the same school as his buddies; the
Rational male who went to a school 200 miles from home but couldn't keep up his grade point
average so he could stay in school. At home his parents had taken responsibility for
reminding him to study and he was unable to do it for himself. You may think that I
am focusing too much on Rationals, but I could tell just as many stories for any
The bottom line is that college works best when the student is in a reasonably stable
emotional situation, has some ownership and vision on how the college education will be
beneficial and can establish a minimal financial backing for the effort. Without these
benefits, attending college may not be feasible.