Excerpted from Please Understand Me II, by David Keirsey
Copyrighted 1998, all rights reserved
All sorts of factors enter into our choosing a mate. Where we live plays a large role in determining the people we meet; likewise our age, race, religion, and educational level influence our range of romantic contacts. For some, there are obligations of social class to satisfy, family expectations to consider, or economic circumstances to take into account. And certainly our physique makes us attractive to some and not others as well as attracting us to some and not others..
Another factor determining our choice, at least as powerful if not more, is temperament. Given a number of choices determined by all the other factors -- national origin, social background, physical attraction, and so forth -- we will select our mate according to temperament.
After all, what do we mean when we say that a person is, or is not, "our type"? For some this might have to do with physical appearance, indicating a preference for a certain height, weight, hair color, or the like. But more often the phrase "my type" suggests an awareness that we are most attracted to, and get along best with, a particular sort of person. People have long tried to identify some such categories of personality in their dating partners, even looking to questionable astrological signs for clues to character, and devising popular classifications such as the strong, silent type or the girl-next-door, the sensitive type or the party girl, just to name a few. Given that people seem to know instinctively that character styles play a significant role in their choice of mates, we might well ask what temperament theory has to tell us, first, about how the temperaments attract each other, and, second, about how the SP Artisans, the SJ Guardians, the NT Rationals, and the NF Idealists get along living with each other.
It should be emphasized that there are no right or wrong attractions; in individual cases, any temperament can be attracted to any other, and for all sorts of reasons. On the other hand -- and this is said cautiously -- more than four decades of people-watching (I began observing character styles in 1956) reveal that romantic attractions are not random and indiscriminate, but show clear patterns and frequencies. In other words, persons of certain temperaments tend to be attracted to persons of certain other temperaments, and if they botch up the mating somehow, they are likely to be attracted to, and again marry, another person of the same temperament as their first mate.
For an in depth analysis of the mating game between the types there is the Pygmalion Project: Volumes I, II, III
Famous Couples and Temperament
Ben Affleck (Artisan) and Jennifer Lopez (Artisan)
F. Scott Fitzgerald (Artisan) and Zelda Fitzgerald (Artisan)
Richard Burton (Artisan) and Elizabeth Taylor (Artisan)
Bruce Willis (Artisan) and Demi Moore (Artisan)
John F. Kennedy (Artisan) and Jacqueline Lee Bouvier (Artisan)
Franklin D. Roosevelt (Artisan) and Eleanor Roosevelt (Idealist)
Charles Lindbergh (Artisan) and Ann Morrow Lindbergh (Idealist)
Joseph P. Kennedy (Artisan) and Rose Fitzgerald Kennedy (Guardian)
Ronald Reagan (Artisan) and Nancy Reagan (Guardian)
Lyndon Johnson (Artisan) and Lady Bird Johnson (Guardian)
William Clinton (Artisan) and Hillary Rodman Clinton (Rational)
Prince Albert (Guardian) and Queen Victoria (Guardian)
George Washington (Guardian) and Martha Washington (Guardian)
Harry Truman (Guardian) and Bess Truman (Guardian)
James Madison (Rational) and Dolley Madison (Guardian)
Will Durant (Rational) and Ariel Durant (Idealist)
Pierre Curie (Rational) and Marie Curie (Rational)
Robert Browning (Idealist) and Elizabeth Barrett Browning (Idealist)
Copyrighted © 1997-8 by David Keirsey, all rights reserved